Amongst the YouTube videos, Tim Ferriss, occasional self help books, my fur babies, and a general need for sanity in my life; the most impactful decision was to meditate in the morning.
My mornings were fast and useless. A time before meditation, calm, and routine. The alarm buzzed loudly at 5:20am and continued to go off every 5 minutes until 5:50am as I angrily pounded the snooze.
Rolling out of bed was the hardest part. I left myself approximately 30 minutes to get ready. Teeth, hair, makeup, pick out what to wear (ugh, the struggle). Make coffee, skip breakfast and check my work e-mail to add on the stress before frantically throwing lunch in my bag and leaving.
Like many of you, my morning routine was not really a routine, but a unpriortized number of tasks that made my mornings stressful. There are so many meme’s and jargon out there about why mornings are terrible, and everyone hates mornings, don’t talk to me until I get my coffee….blah blah blah.
The Start and End of My Practice
Approximately 6 years ago you would not have caught me even considering meditation. I was still holding onto the religious beliefs I was raised with that insisted meditation was of the devil (meaning other religions) and prayer is the only form of meditation you should turn to.
Why I held onto this idea, when the rest of my life had run in the opposite direction of organized religion I am uncertain. Perhaps it was the comfort of what I had always known. Perhaps it was the comfort of living in my anxiety filled brain that I did not want to deal with. One true fact is that I am a stubborn human, and being stubborn does not open doors.
Fast forward two years filled with serious soul searching and total change in perception and you would find me twice a week (at least) sitting in a yoga studio practicing breathing and mastering my downward dog. The meditation in class was quick and centered on preparing the body for movement. I still did not label the way we started and ended our yoga practices as meditation. More as breathing or “relaxing.”
My yoga instructor talked about meditation, my books I was reading suggested it as a practice of self care, even my therapist made many attempts to have me pick up the practice.
This is a practice I was good at. As many of us are. How quickly we find a narrative of what we can or cannot do. A limiting narrative is common. One fed by our childhoods and insecurities. I had worked so hard to be a tough bad ass chick. I had worked hard to always stay busy and fill my schedule and never be called lazy. To work and work and do everything possible to avoid sitting in silence with myself. That would mean I would have to face the real shit.
Another year of therapy and facing everything from my eating disorder to the abuse I had grown up with and I was finally ready to start meditation. It took someone helping me to look inside first. I think that is the real fear for many with meditation. It is going to be pretty freaking terrible having to spend 5 long arduous minutes in silence with yourself. Much less the 30 minutes that is “highly recommended.”
Meditate in the morning and The Start Again of my Practice
I downloaded an app and set a goal to meditate in the morning, right along side my goals for savings and debt pay off. Then I decided to write down what I want my mornings to look like and feel like.
There were a few stumbles for sure, but once I committed it to myself and to paper it was going to happen.
Now my mornings are productive and fulfilling. I wake up at 5:20ish to a bird and nature sound plus the Phillips natural sunrise alarm clock. Then, I slip into a warm robe and slippers and spend about 15 minutes in front of the mirror getting ready. Next, I then make coffee and eat avocado toast or have a smoothie.
Then I sit down to meditate. Headspace is the app I turn to and is very flexible in packs of material and time slots. You have to pay for a year, but it helps with the commitment. My meditation is better some days than others.
After meditation I pause stretch. Drink more coffee. Then I share any of our materials we create. Each day I share something from our blog or my photography blog. After this I get dressed in the clothes I picked out the night before, grab my pre-packed lunch, kiss HisFI and head out the door by 6:45am. Not frantic. Not always anxiety free. Instead, I head out the door with myself and my body. I head out knowing I gave them time to breath.
Meditate in the morning – The Benefits
Meditating is not the only thing that improved my mornings. It was the thing I give the most credit to for the following reasons:
- Reduces Anxiety
- Allows Reflection of Your Body
- Connects Mind to Body
- Deep Breathing in the Morning Massages and Awakens the Organs
- Self Care and Self Love
- A Release of the Mind allows for precise focus and productivity later on
- Allows the mind to sort thoughts
- Resets narratives
Here are the practices for the morning that allow the time and space for me to meditate in the morning:
- No e-mail period. It is an insane time suck.
- No phone until AFTER meditation (use your phone with app only). Even then, keep it productive such as sharing your latest post on Twitter.
- Get ready (minus getting dressed) before even leaving your bedroom. Do the hair and the face or whatever you need. Spend the time on you.
- Clothes out the night before. Seriously one of the best prepping habits possible. Get rid of decision fatigue.
- Pack your lunch the night before from left overs. Again- no decision fatigue and saves you money.
- Find breakfasts you don’t need to cook. Fast and quick.
The Trial And Errors
This meditate in the morning routine took me a year and a half to perfect and I still have good days and bad days. No matter how I feel, I still find space for that meditation. For the time for myself. It is essential to my well being.
In case you still need to be convinced, I recently watched a documentary on Netflix titled Yoga: The Architecture of Peace. It sorts the photographer Micheal O’Niells 10 year journey of yoga. The photographs will give you goose bumps and the interviews with the yogis will inspire and connect you with meditation and have you contemplating the deeper meanings in life. Two of my favorite things, photography and yoga, collided in this film and blew my mind.
Another resource is the Lavendaire, who totes meditations benefits all over her YouTube and blog. Here is one on How to Meditate.
Do you meditate in the morning? How has it assisted in your life? When do you meditate? I would love to hear about your practice or even lack there of.
I started regularly attending yoga classes last month and I can’t tell you how much a difference it has made in my every day life. Focusing on breathing and having 60-90 minutes a day where I am disconnected from EVERYTHING has been wonderful for my focus and anxiety. Before yoga I had the same reaction as you to meditation. I still don’t meditate regularly, but I know I can do it now-if only for 5-10 minutes. Being able to reset my brain and my spiraling thoughts during stressful situations has been wonderful.
AMAZING! I too am so in love with my Yoga studio. It is so worth the money to me, even though it is outside of the gym. I am so happy you have found where the positive vibes flow for you. 🙂
It’s amazing how often yoga is a gateway to meditation. Sadly, both have taken a backseat since becoming a parent 3 years ago, but you have me thinking I need more of this back in my life.
Yes! Get back into it. Your body and mind will thank you for sure. 🙂 (Easy for me to say as I am not a parent, I know)
I tried meditation several times over the years. Like so many people, I felt like I just “couldn’t do it right”. A friend recommended walking meditation. I was a daily walker anyway, so it seemed worth a try, and I was hooked. Now I do walking meditation just about every day, and on the days I can’t walk, I do sitting meditation. Because of walking meditation, I now find that sitting meditation is much “easier”, if that’s even the right word. My feeling is that most people would probably benefit greatly from meditation. The problem for many is finding some gateway (like yoga) that works best for them. Once you get your toe is in the pool, it’s a lot easier to jump in.
I have never heard of walking meditation, but that sounds like a great option, especially with the movement. I agree that meditation is of benefit to everyone, so thanks for the suggestion of a different gateway with the walking meditation. Do you have any specific apps or techniques you use for this? If so, please share them here.
I learned more about walking meditation from a book by the Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Hanh. Here is an Amazon link to the book: https://www.amazon.com/Walking-Meditation-Peace-Every-Endless/dp/1591794730
But you don’t have to buy anything to learn more about it. You can just do a Google search for Thich Nhat Hanh and “walking meditation” and a bunch of free websites and YouTube videos come up where he talks about the whole idea. And you don’t have to be into Buddhism either. He describes it in a way that anyone can do.